Domestic Violence
Rape
Suicide
Eating Disorders
Fears / Phobias
Self Injury
Child Abuse
Teen Pregnancy

Domestic Violence
Hitting is not a sign of love and affection. It is a sign of hatred...
People that hit have no control over their feelings and emotions.
They are overwhelmed by their own insecurities and jealousies and are completely incapable of loving you the way you deserve to be loved.
Once they start hitting you they will not stop.
If they are drinking or, using drugs when they hit you, the possibility of severe injury or, death to you is greater.
Do you deserve this???....NO....NO....NO!!!
No matter what your boyfriend or, husband tells you after he hits you, You do not deserve to be beaten by anyone...EVER!
If he kisses your ass after he hits you to get you to stay and tells you he's sorry or, that he loves you so much that it makes him crazy jealous...It's all bullshit...get out!!!
Does he tell you that you will never get anybody to love you...except him?
Does he threaten that if you leave him he will hurt you or, himself?
Does he make you feel worthless???
Is this love?
Is this what you dreamed of having when you were a little girl?
A true prince will slay the dragon...NOT the princess.

Please...be strong enough to open your eyes.

Love4u
Boogie

Links:

1. National Domestic Violence Hotline
http://www.ndvh.org/

2. Domestic violence resources
http://www.umiacs.umd.edu/users/sawweb/sawnet/violence.html

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Rape
A very broad category...Rape is engaging in or being forced to perform unwanted sexual activities. An unwanted fondling is also a form of rape. The weapons used to make the victim perform the activities can be physical force, verbal threatening or, drug induced. Rape can happen anywhere. On the job, in the home, on the street or, on a date. Most rapes are committed by someone the victim already knows.
Any rape can have devastating effects on the victim for years to come. Sometimes the effects take years to come out. Either way if you are or have been the victim of a sexual assault don't try to handle it alone.
You have support waiting for you...
You are not alone...

Love4u
Boogie

Links:

1. Escaping Hades
http://www.escapinghades.com/

2. Rape recovery center
http://www.raperecoverycenter.com/

3. Date rape teen advice
http://teenadvice.about.com/cs/daterape/

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Suicide
You are in control of your life and you have choices to get better or, worse.
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. As we get more overwhelmed by sadness, guilt, depression or, confusion about who and what we are, killing ourselves becomes more of an option.
Sometimes we don't want to really die we just don't know what else to do. It seems like too much to handle. It just seems too fucking painful.
The reality is...Life can be painful but can also be a great challenge and adventure. Everybody has to suffer and grow through it.
If you are sad please remember...you are not the only one with pain and you have the choice to find solutions and happiness.
You can do it... I believe in you.
Before you make a decision to kill yourself, please explore all your options first.
Because you don't get a second chance to be happy once you're dead.
Stay strong, the earth has much to offer you.
You are the one however that has to go get it.
I have spent most of my life wishing I was dead. Now I finally have come to a place
where I understand that I will be dead much longer than I will be alive.
So why rush the process???...I'm going to die eventually and so will you.
So, before that happens I'm going to enjoy as many of the little things that the earth has to offer first.
I don't think they have Diet Coke after your dead...I like Diet Coke. I also like the ocean.
May not see or, feel that when I'm dead either. Sex is pretty damn cool too...
That's where I started my list and it grew from there.
You make yours now...

Love4u
Boogie

Links:

1. Read this first
http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/

2. Befrienders International
http://www.befrienders.org/suicide.htm

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Eating disorders
Compulsive overeating, bulimia , anorexia, laxative abuse, compulsive exercise.
The obsession with how you look and how other people see you look can be one of the loneliest, secretive and un-fulfilling of disorders. Because you are never satisfied about where you are at physically.
Your hatred for your appearance never rests.

Do you always feel ugly?
Do you always feel fat?
Do you feel that nobody will love you unless you have a perfect body?
Does it feel like sometimes food is your only friend?
Do you pack on weight because it will make you unwanted by people who might hurt you if you were thin?

If you answered yes to any of these then you could an eating disorder or, food addiction.
It is one of the hardest disorders I have found (and believe me I have many...lol) to overcome. Because you have to eat!!!
For example: If you have a drug addiction you must separate yourself from the drug and the people that use or, enable you to use that drug in order to stop using it.
Food is very different because you can't separate yourself completely from the thing (food) that is the main symptom of your disorder. You must actually learn to become a normal eater.
Food is everywhere. It is woven into every social interaction. Every family function, business meeting, hanging with friends, first date...etc etc.
On a deeper level I have found that food in a social setting is an excuse to get away from conversation. If it wasn't for food... you would actually have to talk to your family at holiday gatherings.

but it can be done.

A diet is not the answer because losing weight is not the issue.
What's making you eat, starve, binge and or, purge is what the issue is.
You must go to the root of what makes you eat compulsively.
In order to overcome your problems with food you must re-learn how you look at food and how much power you give it in your life. You must go to places inside yourself that you never wanted to go...You ate to avoid going there.

but I guarantee it is an awesome adventure that is worth taking.

Can you imagine not being afraid of yourself ?

Don't worry about your weight right now.
Fix your head first.
If you do that the weight will come off naturally and stay off because you will have sanity in your life

In music, there is a great quote...
"It's not the notes that make music...It's what happens in between the notes".
Life is the same.
Your life is not food and does not revolve around your meal.
The food is just something you put in your body to so you can live life.
It is fuel and nothing more.
Most animals in the wild seem to grasp this concept but humans seem to struggle with it.
Find yourself and be happy...Because it's cool to be happy.

Love4u
Boogie

Links:

1. Mirror Mirror
http://www.mirror-mirror.org/eatdis.htm

2.Overeaters anonymous
http://overeatersanonymous.com

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Fears/ Phobias:
Social anxiety, high places, flying, spiders, panic attacks, small places, going outside, the dark, water and death are just a few of the more common fears that can stop us from normal living.
If you have a fear or, anxiety that is making your life unmanageable then you may need some help.

Love4u
Boogie


1. Anxieties.com
http://www.anxieties.com/home.htm


2. Internet mental health
http://www.mentalhealth.com/dis/p20-an04.html


3. Psychological research foundation
http://www.psychresearch.com/index.html

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Self-injury:
Self inflicted wounds (cutting, scratching, stabbing, vomiting, head trauma)
An outward method to try to control an overwhelming inward distress.
This is a more common disorder than most seem to think (especially parents). If you self injure please realize that this does not make you insane or, suicidal.
It is an outlet for inner pain and actually a type of survival behavior.
Once you find out what is causing your inner pain, you can find more options for positive solutions to deal with it outwardly.

Love4u
Boogie

Links:

1. Self injury You are not the only one...
http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/

2. Mirror Mirror
http://www.mirror-mirror.org/selfinj.htm

3. Self Mutilation
http://wso.williams.edu/~atimofey/self_mutilation/

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Child abuse/adult survivors of abuse:
An unfortunate part of the reality is that everything we experience today has an effect on our tomorrow. If you were abused as a child it should not be surprising that you have emotional problems as an adult.
When we are kids we are learning everything that sets the pace for our life to come.
We are little information and emotion sponges as children.
When that sponge has been soaked in abuse and negativity all that can be squeezed out of us as adults is bad water.
Most child abuse comes from the people we are supposed to be learning trust and love from ( Mom, Dad, family members, teachers, priests) how can we be expected to trust anyone if the people we were supposed to trust only hurt us???
Without help all that will happen is that we will grow up, have horrible relationships and ironically pass the same behaviors onto our own children.
We must un-learn what we have learned...(yes I know that's a quote from Star Wars)
We must make the decision to seek out the good in ourselves that was beaten down by the people that abused us.
Our past is history...It is over...We can take it's power and throw it away.
We do not have to be a slave to the past because it no longer exists anywhere but in our minds.
If we choose to, we can break the cycle and find happiness.
We can...

Love4u
Boogie


Links:

1. Pandora's box
http://www.prevent-abuse-now.com/

2.Child abuse & Recovery suite 101.com
http://www.prevent-abuse-now.com/

3. Adult survivor of child abuse
http://www.prevent-abuse-now.com/

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Teen Pregnancy
If you are in crisis pregnancy please remember you are not the first and you are not alone.
You have choices but you must deal with them now and make decisions about your future.
You can not just pretend that it will go away on it's own In 9 months you will not give birth to a grapefruit. You will give birth to a child and you will be a parent for the rest of your life.
Adoption, abortion or, becoming a parent are all choices you need think about now.
Do not waste time.
It is ok to be scared.
It is ok to be confused but it is not ok to not take responsibility for yourself.
Please seek help from an organization or, medical facility that will help you look at all your options and not judge you for the choices you make about your own body and your own life.

If you are not pregnant:
Sex is a part of life. It is a beautiful and fulfilling part of being alive.
but don't be stupid about it. Pregnancy happens...a lot.
Sorry that's a part of nature and reality...Accept it.
Learn how to protect yourself and educate yourself.

Sex is your choice.
It is your body isn't it?
You shouldn't have to have sex to prove to someone you love them or, to fit in.
Sex is something you should only do if you feel your ready or, because you really want to have sex. Don't let anyone pressure you into something your not ready for.
Anyone who makes you feel bad for not having sex is an asshole and a loser. Tell them to go fuck themselves and that you'll have sex when your damn good and ready.

Peer pressure is for pussies and the weak minded!!!

Love4u
Boogie


Links:

1. Planned Parenthood
http://plannedparenthood.com/

2. Westside crisis pregnancy center
http://www.w-cpc.org/

3. Open adoptions (maintaining contact/info between birthparent and adoptive parents)
http://www.openadoptioninsight.org


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